tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7808146268393461519.post8953391317481582642..comments2023-03-30T02:22:59.717-07:00Comments on Life with Joel (and his eye): Green eyed monstertraciehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04033725773407398753noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7808146268393461519.post-52312850116266683682010-06-27T18:37:52.526-07:002010-06-27T18:37:52.526-07:00Thanks for the comments ladies.
Cassie, I do thin...Thanks for the comments ladies.<br /><br />Cassie, I do think that when I look at Annalise. She has the most beautiful big brown eyes and they're the feature we've always loved most about her. It's so hard not to feel sorry for J when I think like that and I really don't want to feel sorry for him because he's never going to know any different. I also think that way when I have a particularly trying day with Joel, putting the drops in or the lens in and I just think "If it wasn't for his eye, we'd just go about our daily life without having to stop all the time to do something to it" :-( It just feels all a bit unfair sometimes.traciehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04033725773407398753noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7808146268393461519.post-82742522940032876812010-06-27T04:57:11.703-07:002010-06-27T04:57:11.703-07:00I remember feeling the exact same feelings when fi...I remember feeling the exact same feelings when finding out Afrika is deaf. It has gone away but I have no idea how i'm going to handle it when I have to put the big headband hearing aid on her later this year.<br /><br />Just out of curiosity, do you get the feelings when you look at your own daughter, or is it just when you see other children/families?<br /><br />Joel is lucky to have such a fantastic mummy xCassie Greenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09395690673834714999noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7808146268393461519.post-44962805597041244632010-06-25T15:40:47.708-07:002010-06-25T15:40:47.708-07:00You're not alone in the way you feel - I too h...You're not alone in the way you feel - I too have the exact same thoughts and pray that one of these days it will go away.Kirstiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03812018853904099262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7808146268393461519.post-28006958199992898682010-06-24T22:19:59.812-07:002010-06-24T22:19:59.812-07:00It is almost like you are grieving for what might ...It is almost like you are grieving for what might have been. I felt the same when I was told Tully needed glasses (and very thick ones) I was devastated! My perfect little girl was not so any more (I know now that was not true, she is and always will be perfect to me). But all the negatives kept creeping into my head, silly things, like how will I hug her without her glasses getting in the way, kids at school will make fun of her, how will she play sport...... But then I suddenly realised how lucky I was to have her and you know what, she couldn't care less that she has to wear glasses. She doesn't know any different and neither will Joel. That will just be who he is. Just look at your beautiful babies smile and remember that he loves you no matter what!Wendynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7808146268393461519.post-48563444426602334362010-06-24T19:23:46.785-07:002010-06-24T19:23:46.785-07:00Oh Tracie, massive hugs! Although I'm not goin...Oh Tracie, massive hugs! Although I'm not going through or have experience with anything you are going through, it sounds completely valid to me. You are going through a grieving process, you need to allow yourself to acknowledge these feelings. I imagine that in your situation they are completely normal. Joel is gorgeous and perfect and you are a wonderul mother, but when we are growing our bubs we imagine a perfectly healthy babe. When reality doesn't meet those expectations, we grieve and mourn what could have been. I'd imagine it will get easier with time. You have been through so much in a short period of time.<br />Much love and blessings, Vic xxVichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13319109107003865015noreply@blogger.com